Hello, lovely :)
Yep, i literally just saw it.
Here’s my take.
As someone who has worked extensively with students with special needs of all sorts, especially in hugh school and at the community college level when many were transitioning to university or the real world, I’ve seen two things. First, I’ve seen the kid who, regardless of the situation was treated as a normal kid, was taught- to the best limits - how to take care of themself and ask for help. I have also seen the kid who was never taught to take care of themself, who was handed everything. That latter one is usually what leads to this issue-
So here’s the thing
Schools are required to go above and beyond for those students with disorders and disabilities. This whole “the system is shutting me down” thing is bullshit.
I do agree that for some programs, the workload is extensive, and its time consuming, and fucking exhausting, but here’s the deal- you’re an adult, if you need help or more time talk to your professors, if they don’t care, talk to counselling offices, talk to student affairs. They are there to help you succeed!
If no one is willing to help you, go to the deans, exhaust every fucking option you have before blaming others.
My personal experience is this- for the last year I was doing my undergrad, I worked two jobs and took six classes (18-24 credits depending). I was exhausted, but my exhaustion was often due to my choices to work two jobs and take that many classes, and my own procrastination . At the time, I was being diagnosed with Disordered Eating and an Anxiety disorder. I was balancing a long distance relationship and the vast unknown looming in the distance with no job offers in sight. Here’s the thing, the key - I knew I could handle the exhaustion.
I will be one of many to say that college is not for everyone, it is stressful, it is taxing, but it is not out to get you simply because you have differing corcumstances from the average student. You are only a victim for so long as you refuse to change your situation. If you can’t handle your classload and a job, pick one, if you can’t find a compromise. There are solutions out there that will not make you feel like the world is out to get you.
There is help out there. Instead of whinging, reach out for it. Succeed, because at the end of the day, it is on you to do so. It really is.
And if you run into that kid who has been helped through life, take the timeto teach them. If they’re saying they’re not able enough to deal, get them on the path to a happier and healthier education.